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If I'm talking with a friend that is a few years older than me should I use the 요 form for verbs or should I use the completely informal speech?

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  • In reading your comment from the previous post, if you've known each other for 5 years I would have assumed honourifics would have dropped by now. However he may just be someone who feels more comfortable using them and like the previous post suggests, it's safer to use 요 until he mentions talking casually.
    – starlly
    Aug 17 at 12:41
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I'm going to interpret your question as "do native speakers use 요 with friends who are a few years older than them?".

The answer is "it varies". It depends on lots of different factors. I'll give a few of the most common factors involved, very rough order of importance, it really much differs from person to person and situation to situation so do not take it as universally applicable, there's no "correct" answer here.

  1. Size of the age gap
  2. Degree of closeness/How long you've known each other
  3. Personalities of each person involved
  4. The age of each person (2 years difference likely feels different to an 18 year old than to a 60 year old)
  5. Where you first met each other

As for your situation, you've only told us the 1st factor (and even then not accurately) so it's difficult to give practical advice. In general if the person you're talking to is fluent, it's easiest to just use 요 until they mention lowering your speech and from that point start dropping it.

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  • Ok thank you, the friend that I was thinking about is 2 years older (I'm 13) and I met him in the beach. We treat each other pretty much like we're equal.
    – Ema Tavox
    Jul 8 at 8:00
  • And we've known each other for 5 years.
    – Ema Tavox
    Jul 8 at 8:07

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